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New Year, New Goals!

Revealing my 2020 Goals.

I legit can't believe I even just wrote 2020. Oh f*ck!! 😅 P.S. I curse sometimes. 🤷🏾‍♀️

So 2020 is kind of a big year for me. June of this year will mark 10 years that I've been out of high school. Also, class of 2010, what's good with that reunion?

What do I know now that I didn't know a decade ago?

That almost NOTHING I thought I would have accomplished by 25, actually happened. When I was 18, I thought that by the time I was 22, I'd have met the man of my dreams (met him at 22 but didn't know it lol).

But yeah! I thought we'd be married ASAP and then by 25 we'd have 2.5 kids and a 5 bedroom house with a white picket fence. *Insert Rihanna looking at me like I'm dumb af*

So, got the guy, don't have the kids or house...working on it! But hindsight is 2020-see what I did there.😏

The reality is that, it takes about 4-5 years to get yourself together after high school. At least it did for most of the people I went to high school with. Yep! Even the ones who went off to be famous-Shoutout to Syd.

I am finally at a place where I understand what I want out of life and I am beginning to understand how to attain those things...

For me, that 4-5 years of "figuring myself out," consisted of going to community college for 4 years and leaving with two AA degrees. Then finally figuring out what I wanted to do, and transferring to a 4-year college and getting my Bachelors degree. That's a full 7 years after graduating high school. In reality, I've only been living outside of college for 3 years and that came with another round of growing pains.

I am finally at a place where I understand what I want out of life and I am beginning to understand how to attain those things I want. Which is why I've started to set annual goals for myself. If you missed my 2019 Goals, you can check them out HERE. If you're wondering how I did with accomplishing those goals, read my blog post on it, HERE.

So, what are my goals for 2020?

1. Pay off our student loans (in full)

Yep! You absolutely read that correctly. I want both me and Bae's student loans to be 100% paid off by December 31st 2020. I spent 2019 building up my credit. Sitting comfortably in the low 700s as I type this (November 2019). My student loans are the final piece of debt hanging over me. My car was the other, and I paid that off in 2018. I don't like owing people money, call me crazy!

I watched my mom struggle growing up. Using Rent-A-Center because she couldn't outright pay for things that we needed. And I watched companies like those, trick her into paying more money than the item was worth, due to interest. Of course she had no other choice, but I hate loans. If I can't afford it, I don't buy it- except for that college education lol, had to get a loan for that.

Combined, Bae and I have less student loans than most people have on their own, so don't think I'm about to pay of 50k+ in a year lol!

It does mean that I'm cutting back on spending, which for me, is worth it to never have to talk to Sallie Mae again. LOL!

2. Spend more time with family and friends

If you read my goals for last year, you know this was on there as well. That's because the older I've gotten, the more important this has become to me, so it's on here again because I intend to do it more. My niece moved to LA mid-2019 and it's been such a joy spending time with her.

3. Find a business mentor

I'm not sure how many of you know that my end game is to own my own business. I've spent the last two years thinking about what I want that business to look like and I think I can finally articulate that to someone, so I'm going to get a mentor to help me push it further. I'm nervous but excited to finally be doing it!

One of my curl friends (who I actually consider more of a mentor) told me about https://www.score.org.-Thank you JB! Can't wait to explore it next year!

4. Drink more water

Honestly I'm writing this down to hold myself accountable. I've tried so many times but it's important so I'm trying, AGAIN!! The best technique that I've tried, is having designated times to refill my water bottle, this forces me to refill throughout the day, and drink in between, so that the bottle is actually empty when it's time to refill. I set alarms on my phone for the refill times. If you want to try it, here is my schedule-adjust as needed.

First fill -7am

Refill -10am

Refill -12pm

Refill- 4pm

Final Fill -8pm

I have a 32oz water bottle that I drink from.

5. Read more

I've been saying this for a while. I never really read for leisure because I was too busy reading for school (remember I was in college for 7 years) so reading has not been something I wanted to do.

Now that I've been out of school for a while I think I can enjoy reading again. I'm going to kick it off with a book I've already read, because I know I'll be into it lol. So I'm starting off 2020 by re-reading The Coldest Winter Ever, by Sister Souljah- And I'm still waiting on the movie, sis!!! I read this book in high school so I'm actually curious to see what I'll think of it as an adult.

This will be book one. I'm going to attempt to read two. I know some of my heavy readers are like "ummm that's only one book every 6 months!" That's all I can commit to, gotta start somewhere!

This next, and final thing on my list, isn't really something I thought I needed to work on, until my therapist brought it up.

5. Build my confidence

As you all know, because I'm almost TOO open about it, I have anxiety. I never thought this translated into a lack of confidence in myself. For example, being worried about what people will say about me, or think about me, or being worried I'm not good enough.

When my therapist said that it might be a self-esteem/ confidence issue I literally thought she was crazy. Like, ma'am, I'm confident af! But when I sat and really thought about it, I'm not. I put so much doubt on myself that I don't even need other people to do it for me.

I don't really know how I plan to do this, but I'm going to start by pushing myself to be more authentically, me.

The thing is, I'm not sure I know what that means. I've spent so much of my life trying to fit in so that I wouldn't stand out (because standing out, gives me anxiety), that I think it's going to take me some time to figure out who I am.

All of that said, I'm ready for the journey and the growth. Let's go, 2020!!


BONUS: I want to learn how to swim! For years, I've said I want to learn and I never seem to get around to it, my hair was also pressed for many of those years! Now that I'm natural, I think I'm finally ready to take the plunge (pun intended).



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